Thursday, 30 July 2020

An Evening with Chirag Shah


It is a beautiful day and luckily today, Chirag (officially Chirag Shah) is slightly less occupied. Otherwise a busy person, he agrees for a brief chat and interview for my blog.  As we start, I ask him for a name and he says jo marzee bulalo (you can call by whatever name), but Chiru, he says, is quite common amongst family and friends. 
A Mumbaikar, relocating to namma Bengaluru is his first ever emigration. His experience living in a concoction of piquancy of the city gives him the courage to survive anywhere with ease. A vigorous person, he begins the day with Surya Namaskaars, small walks and a positive attitude towards Life. He maintains healthy eating habits, but stumbles when confronted with a Samosa, Sandwich or Misal Pav.
He is a perfect “Chef-Salad” – Chartered accountancy, Entrepreneurship, humor, management, level-headedness, mentoring, anger, patience and a passion for writing, all chopped up and mixed together in a vinaigrette of sarcasm and emotions.
When asked for personal background and who he is most attached to – “I am a male… Married.  You are putting me into a fix by asking whom I am more attached to. No male would have answer for this!!”, he asserts. Grocery, he adds, is one definite weekend activity, astonished at the amount of food that is consumed.
His mantra for Success – “Put your 100% in what you do. The outcome is not in your hand.  You are the only person whom you can’t lie or cheat to so don’t try to cover it. Success is a myth till you achieve it.”
A strong patron of learning from failures, he believes in the special training received by pursuing his own ventures. His roller coaster experiences translate into the skilled professional and considerate human being that he is today. An opportunist, he utilizes every skill to its advantage and sees every fall as a learning experience. Every day, he believes, has something to teach and a bundle of memories to add. Meeting and knowing people with unique mind sets and varied outlook, he reckons, adds value.
Appearing very calm at the surface, he is constantly planning and conceptualizing. Astonishingly, he is also a Karate Black belt and would have been an international player, but for his fractured arm that shifted his course. And we are glad that it did.
Combine a passion for writing with an avid reading habit and you can expect a masterpiece. Chirag is one of those rare combinations. It should come as no wonder that he contributed to the compilation of “The Scout” – a book on Headly who masterminded the 26/11 Mumbai blasts. He is currently working on a book about management and his experiences, which is due for completion. More books in the pipeline, he says. Immortalized in Ink, he will remain.
Before he joined us, he worked for a Canadian based outfit in Bangalore as Director- Operations. The out-going and experimental person that he is, his first ever job was working for himself – wherein the first eLearning Company in India teaching Chartered Accountants online was conceptualized. He was 20 then, and there has been no turning back.
He fondly recollects a call from an ex-employee’s mother, who hailed from a village near Chennai. The mother thanked Chirag for giving her Son an opportunity to work in their company because of which they were able to build a house. This call, he says, is the most satisfying complement he has received till date. 
Chill Maadi is a motto he lives by. The higher the expectations, the higher the stress, he holds. Typically sangfroid, marriage is the biggest stress, he remarks. On a more significant note, a mail or a call from the customer sighting dissatisfaction regarding support service creates anxiety, he adds. He maintains his composure by listening to Jagjit Singh Ghazals and being in the company of a round cushion which is his childhood buddy.
To lighten the mood a little, we did a rapid fire –
  • If you woke up tomorrow as an animal, what animal would you choose to be and why?
Spider, if it is allowed to be called an Animal. I always like to climb back with every fall.

  • Are you a sunrise, daylight, twilight, or night person?
I am Sunrise – I rise with a hope every day. 

  • What item that you don't have already, would you most like to own?
Xbox 

  • If today were the last day of your life, what would you be doing now?
Give all my passwords to wife, eat lots of ice-creams and rewind my life with my family. 

  • Yamraj (The lord of Death) is before you and has come to take you along. However, he is feeling exceptionally generous and tells you he will let you live for as many years as you already have, but, you have to ask him a question that he cannot answer or give him a reason that he cannot fix. What would you do? (Note: you cannot choose to die.!!)
Yamraj how about a selfie, people want to know how you look 

  • You are face to face with a demon who will grant you 3 wishes, on the condition that you cannot ask for any personal benefit. He will disappear after you have asked to never be seen again. You have 5 minutes. You will be his dinner if you do not ask for anything. What would you ask?
o   Make India a Super Power
o   At least 30 Gold medals for India in next Olympics
o   Grant me 5 more wishes please 

  • There is a wooden suspension bridge that takes you from one bank of the Niagara Falls to the other. All your hearts’ desires are at the other side of the bridge. Would you cross it?
No, because there are many hearts this side who desire me more 

  • If you had to leave behind everything you currently have and only then cross the bridge, would you do it?
Still not, I am a very satisfied guy. 

  • Which is the One thing that has been in your wallet for the longest time? Do you still have it?
A card with some numbers given by someone my family believed in. It is with me for more than 20 years now. 

A glance at the clock indicates it is time to draw this evening to a close. With his experience and maturity, I ask him for advice and he says "Stay put".

If you win, you learn. If you lose, you learn more

Tuesday, 30 July 2019

Meet with Murli


He is fondly known as Murli and is formally known as Murlidhara. Our request to know his nickname is politely brushed aside.
A dedicated, hardworking and simple person, he hails from namma Bengaluru. A person of simple tastes, he doesn’t move around lot. His travel plans are generally with Family, during vacations.
A Bachelors in Computers from PES College, he says Masters Education was never on his mind. He completed Masters in computer applications from SJCIT College, Chikkaballapura, Karnataka as it was his parents’ wish. He believes that this was the turning point in his life.
After completing MCA, he worked for Hindustan Aeronautics Limited as SQL support for Human resource department for very small duration. He dreamt of building a career in the IT field and moved on to join a start-up company RCS technologies as JAVA/JSP developer.
When quizzed about his family, he says “Hum Panch”. His Dad is an Ex-HAL employee and Mom, Home maker. His partner Amitha is a Home maker. They are blessed with a daughter – Nishka who is studying. They are his pillars of support and encouragement.
A balanced man that he is, he devotes his success to the belief of his team. He finds strength in his team and recons it is worth more than anything to work with such concoction of diverse people. With each one bringing different working styles, he says has helped him both personally and professionally improvise.
His greatest challenge: “Shuffling resources when they are already on another Job.”
The Best and Worst: “Best is achievement and Worst is Opportunity to improve. Both are equally important.”
Best compliment: “To hear that a Projects Go-Live is a success”
Funniest incident: “I won the first place in Dance [DJ floor]. I am definitely not good at dance. It felt more like I was exercising to get slimmer. So yes, it was a surprise that I bagged the first place”
On work/life balance: Things are smooth and it would not have been possible without Family support. Stress does not have a place and he steers clear from anything that will bring anxiety. He has his feet on the ground and holds his head high up, making it easy to strike a balance.
On a more personal note, he is a Movie buff and a fan of old classics [Kannada, Telugu, Hindi, Tamil, and English]. In music, he is partial to Bollywood. MTV was his Favorited channel during school/ college. In food, he savours spices and South Indian food.
In weekends, he prefers to stay at home and enjoy his favorite activity – watch TV. But more often than not, his family plans otherwise.

Stories to share:

During my bachelor’s degree, I bunked classes just like my friends but somehow I never had shortage of attendance. My friends always whined about this and somehow believed that I had been attending the classes without their knowledge.
Another instance, it was Diwali time and we thought of doing something fun. There was a small passage right next to my class. We fellows lit a small piece of Agarbatti and joined it to the wick of a cracker. Class was on and after sometime there was loud Boom! Everyone rushed to see the spot and our gang also joined the mob as if we do not know anything.
First year MCA, again Diwali time, entire class mass bunked and left to our respective hometown. Next day this message went to the Principal. One of my friend called me to inform; Principal is calling everyone back and report immediately. I was not interested to return so called Principal and told him I have a flat tyre, so will meet tomorrow. Principal cracked joke angrily, not to worry I will send my car to pick you. Somehow I managed to stay back home and attended class after Diwali. Everything was normal.
There are many such funny moments. Good old college days are always evergreen in our hearts.

Believe in Yourself. Always be satisfied with your work.

Friday, 3 April 2015

Cherish People, Not Perfection.!


We live our lives trying really heard to be perfect - to get that perfect score, to have the perfect dress, to make that perfect presentation for work next day, to have the perfect figure, perfect shoes, perfect accessories... the list is endless. The idea is planted in our minds when are children - the perfect grades is where it starts from - and it takes root (real strong roots) by the time we have reached adolescence.

The perfect partner, the perfect look, the perfect wedding, the perfect flowers, the perfect maid, the perfect party, the perfect guest-list, the perfect location... our pursuit for perfection leads us to look for it in everything around us (literally every single thing)!

In the perpetual chase for perfection, we annihilate ourselves, destroy our confidence and crucify our peace of mind. We are so enamoured with the masquerade of perfectionism that we fail to acknowledge anything even slightly lower than the "perfect 10". When we fall short of our "milestones" for perfection, self-sabotage follows.



Is striving for perfection the only criteria? The chase just leads to frustration, stress, crumbling relationships (yes.!), lower self esteems, fear of failure and a whole load of negativity.

Looking back, we don't remember the perfect score, the perfect dress or that all so perfect party. What we certainly remember are the people and how they made us feel in their presence.

It is essential to understand this pre-eminent certainty in order to not chase perfection, but rather build relationships - not perfect ones - but good enough. Connect with the people around. Strive, not for perfection, but, to be you - a Human Being, a Friend, a Sister/ Brother, a Son/Daughter and a Parent.

In our often-unrealistic pursuits, we often miss out on the people around us, and the wonderful memories that one could create. We miss out on the joys of being with people, right there, in the present moment. It is these moments that create memories for a lifetime...

Starting now, lets build those imperfect relationships, spend time with our loved ones and collect memories.

Begin to Cherish people, and their imperfections. Because for the puzzle to be worthwhile, the pieces have to be imperfect.

Pieces of the puzzle

The crazy neighbour, the metal-head cousin, the fun aunt and the partner-in-crime friend... Every relationship is a part of the puzzle called Life. It is these perfectly imperfect relationships that enhance the significance of our pursuits.

Love people for what they are, without trying to perfect them. You never know how significant their contribution to your puzzle is. And its undoubtedly worth it.!

Most of all, YOU are worth it.!




Sunday, 15 March 2015

Celebrating our Differences

Looking around us, we see that every creation is different. Similar - yes, to an extent, yet different in their own league.

different

Humans, being the "elite" (I like to believe that we are.!), are strikingly different from each other. Composed of the exact same components, we are still very very different from the other. It would have been a great deal easier for the creator (yes, I believe that we are "created" as a species and did not just "evolve") to have picked up one "format" as such and just go on with that.

However, each one of us was beautifully crafted in signature styles - unique and custom made.

unique

According to quantum physics, there are approximately 10 10 70 ways in which the matter that makes up a human body can be arranged. Now that is a really humongous number - it is 1 followed by 10000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000  zeroes!

designed

Yet each one of us is designed in one unique way, out of the very many ways that we could be made in. If we were to run a probability algorithm, there is a high chance that a couple combinations would have repeated themselves by now - perhaps in the case of twins and triplets. Looking around us, we know that there have been absolutely no repeats whatsoever (Bollywood and TV soaps make us believe otherwise) There are no two individuals that are the same, in the true sense of the word. Heck! Even identical twins are not alike.

Of all the numerous ways of "arranging" us, one particular "arrangement" was chosen for each one of us, ensuring that every combination is unique, ever since time. We have been created as distinguished Master Pieces

Each of us has different dispositions as a result of this exclusive designing. It is this dissimilarity that creates the distinctions between our thoughts, our actions, our ideas, our perceptions and our choices.
We are meant to be Unique; designed different from each other, just like snow flakes.


snowflakes

Being different is not out-of-the-ordinary. It is fundamental to our creation and our existence. It is this inherent contrast among us that is the seed for inquisitiveness, creativity, and aspirations. Nurture it, feed it and let it grow. It is the innate nature of these differences bestows upon us the power to change the world.

Everything we do, every thought, every choice, every action, matters - because of the inherent nature of the meaningful, innate discretion. No matter how small or big or tiny or overwhelming the scenario, or how muck likeness it has to do with another situation, it will be different. Unique in its own sense.

Each thought-choice-action cycle creates different wavelengths and energies around us. These energies combine, collide and amalgamate, resulting in the world around us today. It is because of one choice that someone made some thousands of years ago (time-travel sci-fi reference!) that the world is what it is. 

Everything matters. We matter. It may appear to be very insignificant this moment, but could turn out to be the very event that changed the world. Remember, every wave starts of as a ripple.

By being ourselves, by being unique, we are giving the world something that did not exist ever before. We initiate unique "ripples" that have the power to create electricity, when channelled in the right direction.

Let’s decide to be ourselves.
                                      Choose Right.
                                                 And Make a difference.

“Every single thing you do matters. You have been created as one of a kind. You have been created in order to make a difference. You have within you the power to change the world."









Saturday, 14 March 2015

Hijabi. ????


"Hijabi" is a very common way that I have been addressed as in the last few years, ever since I started wearing the Headscarf...

For those who are not aware of the "Hijab", it is a way of dressing where the woman is covered from head to toe, with just the face and hands (upto the wrists) are visible, and it very much includes wearing a head-scarf (picture below).

Not that being called a Hijabi sounds bad, but I have been given a name by my parents and I prefer to be addressed by that name...

Would you call someone who always wears Jeans "Jeanie" or "Jeansie"?


How about those who are ever dressed in Salwar Suits? Would they be addressed as "Salwis" or something like that???


Then why does dressing in a Hijab make you a Hijabi? Not just that - it also makes you "conservative", "oppressed", "silenced" and a whole list of other ideologies... You BECOME the clothing and the Ideology.

Do you cease being you when you decide to dress a certain way or advocate a certain ideology?

I was under the impression that we have a Choice... To choose how we dress and define our own sense of style. But it seems to me that my choice of dressing has led people to believe that my attire is ME.

Since when are people "attires" and "ideologies"? If we do not label people as Jeansie or Salwis, then why label me (and countless other women) a Hijabi?

Why the double standards? Why the naming?

Dressing up in a Hijab was a very personal, informed and conscious decision that I made, and stand-by till date. No force, no compulsion, no influence, no coercion whatsoever can be blamed for it.
And so have countless other women around the world made a choice.

Its time that we respect people for their choices and ideologies. Not "name" them and "define" them with something so superficial as clothing.

Next time you come across a woman wearing a Hijab, don't address her by her attire. She may not be offended, but surely will not appreciate it either.
Rather, just walk up to her and know her story. You will be glad you did.!

Until next time, adios amigos!

Sunday, 8 March 2015

Perfect Beauty is a Fallacy

Esther Hoing, a journalist by profession, got in touch with more than 40 photographers from over 25 countries with one request – to make her beautiful. Her purpose, was to establish whether or not there was a globally accepted standard for Beauty.

The result – Each one got back with a different picture!



What she discovered, and presented to the world, is priceless. This picture epitomizes a long forgone truth that beauty has different meanings for different people in different cultures.

No individual picture can claim to be the most beautiful or the most perfect. Each one is Perfect and Beautiful in its own right.

The lady in the picture is as beautiful in dark skin as she is in the lighter tone. She looks pretty with a complete headscarf and without. She is glamorous with her hair tied up and let loose. She is lovely in her original picture and her ‘beautified’ images.

Then why is being dark skinned in South Asia such a taboo? Why is wearing a Hijab/ headscarf considered an imprisonment across the globe? Why is it not-as-pretty-as-the-girl-in-the-poster if there is no make-up? Why is it that we chase the idea of being “picture perfect” or being “socially acceptable” or even being “the model on the poster”?

Why is it that nations around the world interpose what should be worn or what should not be worn? Who is the “signing authority” on the kind of attire that is acceptable or not? Why do a minority of people dictate the terms to the majority of people?


These questions intrigue the mind whilst they are being asked, but fade into oblivion once the matter has passed. We fail to recognize that the interpretation of beauty and acceptance is expounded by the culture and social environs of a person, being blinded by a false façade created by those who don’t matter, and certainly don’t care. A masquerade created by those who are in the so called “beauty business”, as an approach to make (more) money. 


We are bombarded with these fake ideals every day, every single hour. There is no escape from this incessant blitz that slowly creeps into the minds, and sticks there (Recent studies claim that 95% of the impact is subconscious! Only a mere 5% is a conscious “awareness”). Anything repeated often enough, becomes the acceptable truth.

Women, teenagers and even pre-teens are under self – inflicted coercion to “look more beautiful” and chase the idea of a near – impossible perfection in their expression of beauty. Children as young as 5 year olds awfully believe that sexuality and sensuousness are prerequisites for looking and feeling beautiful, murdering their innocence in the process.

All because of the F word – Fashion – that is used to conceal the entire act.

Styles get in and out of fashion just as frequently as daily commuters get on and off the public transport; Beauty has a new definition with each passing day; Perfection has become a daily struggle, with each toil setting the bar higher and higher, making it nearly impossible for commoners to even appreciate - or even think about - their individuality.

Societies that shun the illusion are viewed as “imposing” and “restricting” by those that “embrace” this idea, chasing a mirage every day. Sticking to the roots is a trait to be hidden from the world in the fear of being labelled “old-fashioned”. Women across the globe are inadvertently pushed to pursue perfection, whose bars are set in the name of Fashion and Acceptance in the society.

30 years ago, it did not matter what size or shape or how heavy a woman was. Today, just because some superstar-model-wife-of-a-superstar-footballer is mere bones, the concept of “Size Zero” is established. What more – the world around, women are starving themselves to near-death to achieve this “milestone”. How preposterous!

It is more prudent today, than has been any other time, that we allow ourselves the freedom to appreciate our individual ‘beauty’, in a manner ‘acceptable’ in our distinctive ideals.

Beauty is an individual choice and interpretation and not a globally accepted phenomenon. Beauty is an expression of the inner self, tranquility, posture, grace, charisma and elegance, with every individual having their characteristic beliefs reflecting in their assertion.

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

Beauty is Relative.!

Embrace YOUR Beauty.!

Saturday, 28 February 2015

13 Types of Drivers on Indian Roads


Honk.! Screeeecchhhh...... Vrooommmm... These are common sounds on the streets, all over the world.

Indian drivers, however, are a class apart.! Like all beings on this planet, Indian drivers can also be categorized. Listed below are 13 special categories of Drivers that are found on Indian Roads. (Not that they are not found elsewhere, just that they are a Majority in the country) and how to spot them

Which one are you?

1. The Squeezy



Now these are a *very* common species. They think and believe that they can squeeze their way out in the narrowest of places and reach their destination in one piece, irrespective of the space available. They are characterized by small sized vehicles, and a strong belief that they are in a video game where they can pick and place their vehicle in the front of the line with some "key strokes"!

2. The Gobs



A gross species nevertheless. These are the kinds who use the roads like basins and Spittoons - from spitting pan to phlegm to blowing their nose... They think it absolutely okay to misuse public roads.
Without second thoughts, they will pop out their heads and go "thoo".. whether it lands on the street or another person is a total race to escape...

3. The Footpath riders


Img Credit: Times of India


Queue on the roads? No problem... The footpath is all ours.!! Not to mention, these will also abuse any pedestrians for coming their way with so much authenticity that the pedestrian begins to believe they are on the "wrong side". It is surprising though how they get "on" and "off" the elevated path at their convenience. 

4. Hear me Honk


Creator: grmarc  |  Credit: grmarc


These guys love the horn on their vehicle so much that they will use it at the slightest chance they get. At junctions, in roadblocks, at a red signal - everywhere. They strongly believe honking is a magic wand that will make the cars ahead of them disappear in thin air to ensure them a smooth ride until destination. 
On a less annoying day, these species might throw up a tune :) !!

5. Stunt Riders



Some of them take the saying "All world's a stage" literally and begin showing off their skills on the roads as well. The guy in the picture is a perfect example of this species - I'll go over the divider.!!

Always precarious, they have claimed lives. This habit is not something to be proud of. !!

6. F1 Racers


img credit: Newstap


This species is dangerously fatal. The roads are the tracks and these are the racers. They will not drive at any speed below the max speed on their odometer. Major freak road accidents are caused by them, and many of them are fatal too.
It is in our best interests to avoid being in their lane and make a complaint as soon as you spot one. They are not just endangering their own lives, but the lives of others too.

Stay Safe, Stay Vigilant.!

7. Get Ahead drivers



These species like to stay ahead always - even in traffic. So they will do to any lengths to get to the beginning of the longest queue, even if they are breaking a 100 traffic rules in the process, including driving on the wrong side of the road.
No matter what the situation, they will not let any other vehicle pass ahead of them, or even wait till the vehicles on the perpendicular roads pass. Nope... Either they go first, or no one does.!
They will not trouble you much unless you try to stop them in any way.


8. The Itchers


Get this image on: VectorStock | License details Creator: VectorStock.com/29920941


This is a peculiar species. they itch so bad that they have to get scratched, and in the process ruin other species as well. Mind you, these are also very Touchy.!
The best way to identify them is to look at the bumpers. Their itch leaves evidence.!

Stay clear at all times :) else they might "rub" on you as well :)

9. Ambulance followers



These species are common but redundant. They are activated only when there is a Siren around, especially the one of an Ambulance. Rather than make way for the ambulance, they will follow the way of the ambulance to get ahead of the line and break free of the crowd.

A major offence in most parts of the world, its time we take cognizance and stop such acts - spread awareness and follow the rules, atleast for the person in the ambulance.

10. L-Boards


The species are not necessarily "learning" how to drive. The main characteristics include, but not limited to;
- Maintaining 1 meter distance from vehicles
- Breaking way before than necessary
- On a two-wheeler, if the speed is 20kmph or lower, their feet are just 1cm from the road
- Extra allowance
- Trouble parking

11. Zig-Zaggers



This category has a hard time keeping their hands stable at the wheel. They don't drive - they slither around on the roads making it a real life videogame.

12. The Splashers


Creator: Kuevda  |  Credit: Kuevda


Most common during the rains and immediately after a downpour. They assume speeding through a puddle of water on the streets and splashing it on everyone around is fun.!


13. Woofer-heads





Woofers, surround sound speakers and every other accessory to amplify music can be found in the boot of their vehicles. And they love to show-off .
How? Play music on full volume, roll down the windows and zoom through the streets.!

I suppose it covers the majority of the driving population. If I have missed your "category" do leave your comments below and I will add it in the next update.

Happy Driving.!!!

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